These past few months have been rough for me. But as women, you have to boss up and remember who TF you are.  I was talking to my girl Whitney (BTW check out her blog Just Do Whit) about women coming together and holding each other accountable. We need to remember our strength as women, forget about these men and be bomb.

A lot of times women put so much effort into wanting to be desirable, nurturing, and living up to society's expectations we lose ourselves. Remember your power. You're stronger than you know.

I compiled a playlist for the women out here just trying to be great.

Excellent - Princess Nokia

"I bring out the best in me and do what is best for me
I excel, I'm excellent, my melanin's heaven sent
Got all of my haters bent, they gag, and I'm still content"

Boss - The Carters

"You ain't talkin' 'bout nothing, I ain't got no time, boss"

Django Jane - Janelle Monae

"We gave you life, we gave you birth
We gave you God, we gave you Earth
We fem the future, don't make it worse"

She Bad - Cardi B, YG

"She bad, she bad, she bad, she bad"

Q.U.E.E.N - Janelle Monae featuring Erykah Badu

"Well I'm gonna keep leading like a young Harriet Tubman
You can take my wings but I'm still goin' fly
And even when you edit me the booty don't lie"

Run the World (Girls) - Beyoncé

"I'm repping for the girls
Who taking over the world
Have me raise a glass
For the college grads"

Unpretty - TLC

"But if you can't look inside you
Find out who am I too
Be in the position to make me feel so
Damn unpretty"

I’m Every Woman - Whitney Houston

"I'm every woman, it's all in me
Anything you want done, baby, I'll do it naturally"

Girl - Destiny’s Child

"Girl, you don't have to be hiding
Don't you be ashamed to say he hurt you
I'm your girl, you're my girl, we're your girls
Don't you know that we love you"

Bitch Better Have my Money - Rihanna

"Better have my money!
Y'all should know me well enough
Better have my money!
Please don't call me on my bluff
Pay me what you owe me"

Nice for What - Drake

"That's a real one in your reflection
Without a follow, without a mention
You really pipin' up on these niggas
You gotta, be nice for what, to these niggas?"

Bossy - Kelis

"I'm bossy
I'm the chick ya'll love to hate
I'm the chick that's raised the stake
I told young stunna he should switch debate
I'm back with an 808 cause I'm bossy"

No Scrubs - TLC

"Well a scrub checkin' me
But his game is kinda weak
And I know that he cannot approach me
'Cause I'm looking like class, and he's looking like trash
Can't get wit' a deadbeat ass"

Bodak Yellow - Cardi B

"Now she says "she gon' do what to who?
Let's find out and see, Cardi B

Golden - Jill Scott

"I'm taking my own freedom
Putting it in my song
Singing loud and strong
Grooving all day long
I'm taking my freedom
Putting it in my stroll
I'll be high-steppin' y'all
Letting the joy unfold"

What’s Love Got to Do With It - Tina Turner

"I've been thinking about my own protection"

Formation - Beyoncé

"Okay ladies, now let's get in formation, 'cause I slay"

Don’t Touch My Hair - Solange

"Don't touch my hair
When it's the feelings I wear
Don't touch my soul
When it's the rhythm I know
Don't touch my crown
They say the vision I've found
Don't touch what's there
When it's the feelings I wear"

U.N.I.T.Y - Queen Latifah

"But don't you be calling out my name
I bring wrath to those who disrespect me like a dame"

He Wasn’t Man Enough - Toni Braxton

"He wasn't man enough for me"

Cranes in the Sky - Solange

"I tried to drink it away
I tried to put one in the air
I tried to dance it away
I tried to change it with my hair"

Broken Clocks - SZA

"All I got is these broken clocks
I ain't got no time
Just burning daylight
Still love and it's still love, and it's still love"

Grown Woman - Beyoncé

"I remember being young, tough, brave
I knew what I needed
I was spending all my nights and days
Laid back day dreaming
Look at me - I'm a big girl now"

Nasty - Janet Jackson

"I'm not a prude (no)
I just want some respect (that's right)
So close the door if you want me to respond (ooh ooh yeah)
'Cause privacy is my middle name
My last name is Control
No my first name ain't baby
It's Janet
Miss Jackson if you're nasty"

Independent Women - Destiny’s Child

"Question, tell me how you feel about this
Try to control me, boy, you get dismissed
Pay my own fun, oh, and I pay my own bills
Always fifty fifty in relationships"

***Flawless - Beyoncé featuring Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

"I know when you were little girls
You dreamt of being in my world
Don't forget it, don't forget it
Respect that, bow down bitches"

We teach girls to shrink themselves, to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, you can have ambition, but not too much. You should aim to be successful, but not too successful. Otherwise, you would threaten the man. Because I am female, I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. Now marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors not for jobs or accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings in the way that boys are.
— Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, We Should All Be Feminists

Doves in the Wind - SZA featuring Kendrick Lamar

"Real niggas do not deserve p****"

Respect - Aretha Franklin

"All I'm askin'
Is for a little respect when you get home (just a little bit)"

I Will Survive - Gloria Gaynor

"It took all the strength I had not to fall apart
Kept trying hard to mend the pieces of my broken heart
And I spent oh-so many nights just feeling sorry for myself
I used to cry
But now I hold my head up high and you see me
Somebody new"

Tomboy - Princess Nokia

"I'm a Calvin Klein model, come and get me"

I'm Coming Out - Diana Ross

"There's a new me coming out
And I just had to live
And I wanna give
I'm completely positive"

This Woman's Work - Maxwell

"I know you have a lot of strength left
I know you have a little life in you yet"

What are your go-to songs?